Why We Moved Back to INDIA After 15 Years of H1B Uncertainty in US
Anup and Akshaya moved to Bangalore after 15 years in the US. Their story focuses on H-1B uncertainty, long-horizon planning, CBSE school choice, freelancing, and how the family adjusted after landing.
In this story
- Key Highlights from Anup and Akshaya's Journey
- 📚 Background: Why They Went to the US
- 🇺🇸 Life in the US: The Different Phases
- 🔒 The H1B Uncertainty That Pushed Them
- 🏥 Healthcare: US vs India Reality
- 📋 The 6-Year Planning Process
- 💰 Financial Planning: RNOR Strategy
- 🏫 School Selection: Why CBSE?
- 💼 Career Transitions: Freelancing and Full-Time
- 🇮🇳 Life in India: 6 Months In
- 💡 Advice for NRIs Considering the Move
- ❓ Frequently Asked Questions
Anup (data science/engineering) and Akshaya (product analytics) moved to Bangalore after 15 years in the US. They share their journey through H1B uncertainty, career transitions, school selection, and real insights on life in India.
Key Highlights from Anup and Akshaya's Journey
- Anup: Went to US in 2010 for Masters (electrical engineering), pivoted to data science
- Akshaya: Masters in quantitative finance, worked in product analytics
- Both were on H1B with no Green Card in sight for 15-20 years
- Son was 6 (starting first grade) - right time for kids to adjust
- 6-year planning process: 2 years pros/cons, 3-4 years city/property, 1.5 years school
- Chose Bangalore suburb for best of both worlds - small town feel, city accessible
- Anup: Freelancing in data science; Akshaya: Remote full-time job in 2 months
- Key insight: Work-life balance concerns are overhyped - many good companies exist
The Sense of Belonging: "The moment we stepped in, you're in your home country. The sense of belonging is something that is always not talked about. In the US, you're always neither here nor there. Here, you belong. You're not tied to any visa - nobody's going to kick you out. That has brought a lot of calm and peace of mind to us."
Need the full planning framework? Use the Moving Back to India from USA cornerstone guide for the broad checklist, tax timing, school planning, and move sequencing. This page is the lived-experience story underneath that guide.
📚 Background: Why They Went to the US
Anup went abroad in 2010 as a student. Like many of his generation, he didn't do much research - it was simply what students did.
Anup's Reasons for Going
- Sense that education abroad was better
- Good chance of getting a job in core engineering (electrical engineering)
- Perception that life abroad was better
- Alternative to jumping directly into IT in India
Akshaya's story was more straightforward: "I got married and I had to go - no other choice. I just moved post-marriage."
She did her Masters in quantitative finance and continued in product analytics throughout her career.
🇺🇸 Life in the US: The Different Phases
Anup describes life in the US in distinct phases:
The Three Phases
| Phase | Experience |
|---|---|
| Student Phase | Stripped for money, trying to make ends meet while juggling coursework and job search |
| Work Phase | Start earning decent money, happy, have all the freedom - continues through marriage |
| Kids Phase | Becomes tougher and more constrained, especially if both spouses are working |
Akshaya adds: "For me also the experience has been a combination of highs and lows. There are moments where it is really high and then there are moments where you feel like - what am I doing here?"
Career Constraints
Anup reflects on career limitations due to visa constraints:
The Visa Career Trap
"If you don't start on the right foot, it becomes very hard to pivot and get back into the right track given all of the visa constraints. Plus we were in San Diego where there were limited opportunities. If we had to move, we had to move to Bay Area or East Coast cities - which becomes difficult as life goes on."
Anup had to pivot from electrical engineering to software/data science - something he feels he should have started with.
🔒 The H1B Uncertainty That Pushed Them
The visa uncertainty was a major factor in their decision to return.
H1B Constraints They Faced
- Both spouses working: Made life even more constrained
- No career risks: Couldn't explore opportunities or do a startup
- Always playing safe: Had to hold on to jobs
- Layoff pressure: If laid off, scramble for any job within time limit
- Musical chairs: "You want to move next to the chair as fast as possible - no time to explore"
The Uncertainty Toll
"Even if you're not affected at all, the uncertainty does take a toll on you. You could have a career spanning 30 years and not be affected with any visa issues or layoffs. Or you could fall into a pit within the first three years itself. It boils down to how much you can tolerate this uncertainty."
Akshaya reinforces: "The stress of being tied to a visa and the pressure of holding on to it - I don't think it was worth it for us."
🏥 Healthcare: US vs India Reality
Healthcare was one of the factors that influenced their decision.
Two Types of Healthcare Needs
| Type | US Experience | India Experience |
|---|---|---|
| Major Acute Illness | World-class care (pregnancy, cancer, etc.) | Good but varies |
| Everyday Illness | Very difficult - waited 6 hours for broken foot | Much easier accessibility |
Akshaya shares an important difference about doctor communication:
She recalls a stressful experience: "My son was a newborn, 45 days old, with some skin issues. He was admitted to hospital and they said 'we can't say anything right now, we have to run tests.' That day or two felt like heavens were falling."
📋 The 6-Year Planning Process
Anup and Akshaya took a methodical approach to planning their return.
Planning Timeline
| Period | Focus |
|---|---|
| First 2 Years | Dinner table conversations - pros/cons, what they'd miss/gain, whether being unfair to kids |
| Years 3-4 | Zeroed in on city (Bangalore) and property purchase |
| 1.5 Years Before | Decided on school |
| Last Year | Logistics - selling US property, vehicle, shipping, resignations |
Why Bangalore?
City Selection Factors
- Parents close by: Both sets of parents accessible
- Job opportunities: IT hub with plenty of options
- Weather: "Unparalleled" - at least for now
- Already had property: Bought 3-4 years before moving
They chose a suburb of Bangalore for "best of both worlds" - small town feel but city accessible if needed for work.
The Kids Timeline Driver
The timing was driven by their son's schooling:
Why Move Before First Grade
"As kids grow older, it is harder for them to adjust. We don't want to put that stress on him. If I bring him when he's 10, he's probably not going to like this experience. He's going to have his own friend circle. It's very unfair for him."
Their son was 6 - the right time to move before he started first grade in India.
💰 Financial Planning: RNOR Strategy
Their key financial strategy centered around the RNOR (Resident but Not Ordinarily Resident) status.
RNOR Tax Benefit
There's a window where you are RNOR in India and non-resident alien in the US - during this period, your stocks and mutual fund profits are not taxed in either country.
Advice: Time your move to have a significantly long window to capitalize on this benefit.
What They Did
- Kept most funds in US
- Consolidated accounts with Fidelity
- Maintained one US bank account
- Bought property in Bangalore 3-4 years before moving
For detailed guidance on RNOR status, check our comprehensive RNOR guide for returning NRIs. You may also find our financial planning checklist for NRIs moving to India helpful for your planning process.
🏫 School Selection: Why CBSE?
Their school choice might surprise some - they chose CBSE over IB or international curriculum.
Their Reasoning
Why Not IB/IGCSE?
- Teacher dependency: Good IB/IGCSE schools depend majorly on teacher quality
- Philosophy gap: If teachers use "chalk and talk" method, IB philosophy doesn't reach kids
- Cost: Handful of schools that actually deliver have fees "over the roof"
Why CBSE?
- Deal breaker criteria: School must be within 2km of home
- Progressive approach: Play-based learning, no high pressure in primary grades
- Flexibility: If they ever move back, son can adapt to either system
- Diversity: Kids from all backgrounds attend
- Reasonable fees: Not the high-end schools with chefs designing nutrition menus
The Result
"He only spends like 5 minutes traveling to school. He could also walk to school if he misses the bus."
💼 Career Transitions: Freelancing and Full-Time
Both Anup and Akshaya took intentional breaks before starting their careers in India.
Anup: Freelancing in Data Science
Why Freelancing?
- Wanted more freedom - didn't want to get back into 9-to-5
- Wanted to reimagine career and develop new skills
- Explore other income streams like content creation
- Expectations weren't huge - not trying to charge astronomical rates
Freelancing Tips from Anup
- Have hot skills: Data analytics, data engineering, software are in demand
- Use multiple platforms: Toptal, Upwork, Fiverr
- Aggressive marketing: Spend a few weeks marketing yourself
- Build reputation: Offer initial discounts, give work samples
- Gravitate to hot fields: Find what's hot and move towards it
Akshaya: Full-Time Remote Job
Akshaya found a full-time remote job in product analytics within 2 months.
Job Search Strategy
- Referrals: First-hand referrals help everywhere
- Job portals: Naukri, Instahire, and multiple others
- Be active: Put yourself on all portals
- Paid highlighting: Some portals offer paid profile highlighting
- Priority: Wanted remote or hybrid at max
Work-Life Balance Reality
"The question about work-life balance always came up from friends. But that is not the case always - it is changing. You can pick and choose. Product-based companies offer good balance."
🇮🇳 Life in India: 6 Months In
After almost 6 months in India, they share their experience.
What They Love
The Positives
- Sense of belonging: "The moment we stepped in, you're in your home country"
- No visa pressure: "Nobody's going to kick you out from this country"
- Gated community: Immediate environment is pretty good
- Social life: Pretty good for adults
- Services: Blinkit, Zepto - unparalleled convenience
- House help: Plenty available and affordable
- Kids' social life: Better than US - easier to make friends
- Family accessibility: Parents close by
Traffic: The Big Question
Traffic Reality
Traffic was their biggest apprehension. Their solution: Plan housing near work and school.
"6 months into the move, it has not bitten us as hard - at least yet. Overall we are very happy."
What They Miss
From the US
- Anup: National parks and natural surroundings (though India has plenty too)
- Anup: Being able to hop into car and go to Starbucks without hassle - "but I don't get the chai here that I get at Starbucks"
- Akshaya: Shopping experience - accessibility to multiple brands in one store like Target or Costco
- Akshaya: In suburbs, going to mall is a "day event" requiring planning
Kids' Adjustment
Their son is enjoying life in India. The social life for kids is better - easier to make friends. He's in a school just 5 minutes away.
For more insights on choosing the best schools in India for NRI kids, check our detailed guide. If you're considering Bangalore, our article on experiences living in India after 20 years in US offers additional perspectives.
💡 Advice for NRIs Considering the Move
Key Recommendations
- Right expectations: India is not US - be "Roman in Rome"
- Visit first: Spend a month to get feel of life before cutting all ties
- Take care of big things first: City, property (buy or rent), kids' school, career
- Logistics last: Selling, moving, shipping - keep for last year
- RNOR window: Time your move for tax benefits on investments
- Traffic solution: Plan housing near work/school
- Job market reality: People here are bright minds - don't underestimate
For Students Considering Going Abroad
Anup offers perspective for those thinking about going abroad:
Factors to Consider
- Degree of uncertainty and risk involved
- What is at stake - amount of money
- What is Plan B if things don't go as planned?
- Can you live with that Plan B?
"There is no yes or no answer that will pop out of an algorithm. Everybody has to evaluate it individually."
❓ Frequently Asked Questions
Why did Anup and Akshaya decide to move back after 15 years?
Multiple factors: H1B visa uncertainty with no Green Card for 15-20 years, both spouses working made life constrained, aging parents, more career freedom in India, wanting kids to adjust while young (son was 6), and the sense of belonging - always feeling "neither here nor there" in US.
Why did they choose CBSE over IB?
Good IB/IGCSE schools depend heavily on teacher quality - if teachers use traditional methods, IB philosophy doesn't reach kids. Top IB schools have very high fees. They wanted a progressive CBSE school within 2km of home with play-based learning and no high pressure in primary grades.
How did they handle careers after moving?
Both took intentional breaks. Anup chose freelancing in data science for freedom - used Toptal, Upwork, Fiverr with aggressive marketing. Akshaya found full-time remote job in product analytics within 2 months using Naukri, Instahire, and referrals. Job hunting was easier than in US.
What financial planning did they do?
Key strategy: Utilize the RNOR window where stocks and mutual fund profits aren't taxed in either country. They kept most funds in US, consolidated with Fidelity, maintained one US bank account, and bought property in Bangalore 3-4 years before moving.
What was their planning timeline?
6-year process: First 2 years - pros/cons discussions. Years 3-4 - city and property decisions. 1.5 years before - school selection. Last year - logistics (selling US property, vehicle, shipping, resignations).
How is healthcare different in India vs US?
For everyday illnesses, India offers much easier accessibility - they waited 6 hours in US for a broken foot. In India, doctors can reassure you directly ("don't worry, this is nothing"). In US, doctors order 10 tests due to liability concerns. For major acute illnesses, US care is world-class.
What do they miss about the US?
Anup misses national parks and the convenience of hopping into car for Starbucks. Akshaya misses the shopping experience - accessibility to multiple brands in one store like Target or Costco. In Bangalore suburbs, going to a mall is a "day event."
What advice do they give for NRIs considering the move?
Have right expectations - India is not US, be "Roman in Rome." Visit first for a month. Job market is competitive but evolving - product-based companies offer good work-life balance. For freelancing: have hot skills, market aggressively, offer initial discounts. Traffic concerns are overhyped if you plan housing near work/school.
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