After 20 years in the US, Avinash shares why his family moved back to India: empty-nester risk, extended family, kids' adaptability, support system, and financial flexibility.
After spending majority of my adulthood in the US with a successful career and good life, here are the 5 reasons our family decided to move back to India.
For this family, the return was not about the US being bad or India being perfect. The decision came from a life-stage shift: young kids, aging parents, extended family, future empty-nester worries, day-to-day support, and financial flexibility started mattering more than the predictability of US life.
Do not copy the move blindly. Use this story with the Desi Return decision framework and the return-to-India checklist guide before you act.
| Reason | What Changed After 20 Years | What to Check Before Copying It |
|---|---|---|
| Empty-nester future | Future life abroad felt lonely once kids left home. | Whether India offers real community, not just nostalgia. |
| Extended family | Grandparents, cousins, and relatives became more important. | Actual family proximity, boundaries, and support reliability. |
| Kids' development | Adaptability, outdoor play, and cultural roots became priorities. | School timing, board fit, language comfort, and child age. |
| Support system | Doing everything alone abroad felt fragile during illness or stress. | Healthcare, domestic help, parent care, and neighborhood fit. |
| Financial flexibility | Money could buy more time, help, and optionality in India. | Income plan, tax residency, investments, housing, and runway. |
I did my engineering in Hyderabad and immediately after Bachelors went to US for my Masters in 2002. After graduation, I worked in Lab Robotics and non-IT field with a successful, fulfilling career. I'm grateful for life in US - professional and personal development, lifelong good friends. There was never a moment where I felt "why did I come to US." Life was great. That's where I spent majority of my adulthood. So then why did we move back to India?
As life changes, so do our priorities:
The environment you choose to live plays a significant role in supporting these priorities. For instance, if you're starting a business, being in Silicon Valley or Bangalore is advantageous because the ecosystem supports entrepreneurship. For us, moving to India aligned better with our long-term goals as a family.
"Sometimes life is comfortable and it's tempting not to rock the boat. We had a very comfortable life in US. But one of the biggest lessons I learned is the importance of living without regrets. As we get older, we often wish we had tried something, taken the leap, explored that opportunity. Instead of living with unanswered what-ifs, we decided to evaluate our options. It wasn't easy but it was worth it because we didn't want to look back years later and wonder what could have been."
One of the biggest factors was thinking about our future as empty nesters:
"Fast forward 20 years when our kids grow up and are in college or outside the home - how does life look like abroad? I felt it would be lonely and hollow. Even though you have great friends and great neighbors, the lifestyle makes everyone busy with their own lives."
In India, we see a different possibility - a more dynamic life surrounded by family and community. That's why we wanted to move while kids are still young. It allows them to adjust and it's a decision that's fair for them too.
"Living abroad often means being part of a nuclear family - you, spouse, and kids. It's wonderful in many ways, you get to spend lot of time together evenings and weekends. However, time with extended family is limited."
As we get older and eventually pass on, who is there for kids? Is it siblings? I personally think having family support is invaluable.
In India, kids get opportunity to spend more time with:
These bonds create a support structure that's hard to replicate. The time grandkids enjoy with grandparents - seeing my parents pampering the kids, sharing stories, just enjoying time together - is priceless. It benefits both kids and parents, and this is something that can only be done when kids are still young, creating memories for a lifetime.
"Life abroad is very structured and organized which has its advantages, but kids raised in such environment may find it harder to adapt in India later in life. On the flip side, kids growing up in India are very adaptable - they can survive in India or anywhere in the world."
Creative problem-solving - finding innovative solutions with limited resources
Prepares them to thrive anywhere in the world
Can adjust to any environment, any situation
Soccer, cricket, basketball with friends in the community
I personally feel kids in India get more opportunity to spend time outdoor - playing soccer, cricket, basketball with friends in the community. This is the lifestyle and childhood we want our kids to experience as they grow up.
| Aspect | Kids Abroad | Kids in India |
|---|---|---|
| Environment | Structured, organized | Dynamic, chaotic |
| Adaptability | May struggle in India later | Can thrive anywhere |
| Play | Scheduled activities | Spontaneous outdoor play |
| Problem-solving | Follow rules | Jugaad mindset |
| Competition | Participation trophies | Real competition |
Yes, things like traffic and pollution are better abroad. But for us, having a support system is more important.
"If I get sick or my wife gets sick or worse both of us are sick, we still have to get up, take care of things, get kids ready, drop them to school. There isn't a support structure abroad - I'm sure friends help but it's different dynamics. In India, the support structure is much more conducive and helpful in these situations."
Services and help are more accessible in India. This frees up a lot of time to focus on important things that are much more valuable. It's like living a luxurious life for the money you spend. It's a choice between:
"I wanted financial flexibility to leave the corporate world and have the option to follow passion, experience life, and not work just for money. This gives a lot more flexibility and experiences in life."
Not tied to a job just for money or visa status
Do what you love - like starting DesiReturn to help others
Travel, explore, spend time with family
India provides variety - money stretches further
India provides a wide variety of lifestyles where your money can stretch a lot. You can choose the lifestyle you want based on your preference. As part of the move, I decided to leave the corporate world and have a lifestyle where I can follow passions, do different things, and experience life.
These are the reasons why we as a family decided to move to India - to provide an environment that aligns with our priorities as a family and not to have regrets in life.
I hope this is helpful and gives some insights into our thought process. The channel brings different stories to make you think through these different aspects of priorities and how life abroad versus India compares - so you can make an informed decision for yourself.
Get guidance on evaluating your priorities and making the transition smooth for your family.
No. This story is not a universal rule. The move made sense because this family's priorities had shifted toward extended family, kids' adaptability, support system, financial flexibility, and avoiding regret. Families should still stress-test career, schools, city fit, taxes, healthcare, housing, and spouse alignment before copying the decision.
Check school timing, board choice, child age, language comfort, city and neighborhood, healthcare access, parent support, spouse career, tax residency, US assets, housing, and a realistic trial-stay or backup plan. The emotional reason can start the move, but these execution details decide whether the return is sustainable.
Life abroad when kids leave can feel lonely and hollow. Even with great friends, everyone is busy with their own lives. In India, there's a more dynamic life surrounded by family and community. Moving while kids are young allows them to adjust and is fair for them too.
Abroad means nuclear family - you, spouse, kids. Time with extended family is limited. In India, kids spend more time with cousins, relatives, grandparents. These bonds create a support structure that's hard to replicate. Grandparents time with grandkids creates memories for a lifetime.
Kids abroad grow up in structured environments but may find it harder to adapt later. Kids in India develop jugaad, competitive spirit, and adaptability - they can thrive anywhere. They also get more outdoor play time with friends in the community.
If both parents get sick abroad, there's no support structure - you still have to manage everything. In India, support is more conducive. Services and help are accessible, freeing up time for important things. It's like living luxuriously for the money you spend.
India provides lifestyle variety where money stretches further. This enables leaving corporate world to follow passion and experience life - not just work for money. You can choose your lifestyle based on preference with more flexibility.
Comfortable life makes it tempting not to rock the boat. But living without regrets is important. Instead of wondering 'what if' years later, evaluate options and take the leap. It wasn't easy but worth it to not look back wondering what could have been.
Moving while kids are young can make transition easier, especially before school boards and peer groups become harder to change. It also gives children more years with grandparents, cousins, relatives, language, festivals, and everyday India exposure.
Early life abroad often rewards career growth, exploration, and financial building. Later, family support, community, purpose, children's roots, parent care, and freedom from corporate pressure can become more important. The right country depends on which environment supports the current life stage.
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0:02 Hi everyone as we step into 2025 I want to thank you all for your incredible support in 2024 your support encouragement and engagement have been the backbone for the successful Journey at DAC return I'm super excited about 2025 and wish you all a very happy and successful year ahead today I want to share something something personal my own Journey on why we left us after 20 years to move to India before we dive into it let me give a bit of background about myself I did
0:43 My engineering in Hyderabad and immediately after Bachelors I went to us for my masters in 2002 after graduation I worked in lab Robotics and non it field and had a successful fulfilling career I'm also very grateful for the life in Us in terms of professional personal development lifelong good friends that I made there was never a moment where I felt why I came to us life is great and that's where I spent majority of my adulthood and everything is good so then why did we move back to India before I dive into the actual reasons I want to talk about two points
1:33 First environment as life changes so do our priorities when you are young you want to explore grow your career and take the world as you start a family stability raising the kids become a priority and as you get older your focus shifts again connection community and purpose so the en en ironment you choose to live plays a significant role in supporting these priorities for instance if you're starting a business being in a place like Silicon Valley or Bangalore can be incredibly advantageous because the ecosystem is designed to support entrepreneurship similarly for us moving to India aligned better with our long-term goals as a family second not to have regrets in life sometimes life is comfortable and
2:35 It's tempting not to rock the boat we had a very comfortable life in us and why do we wanted to change or rock the boat but one of the biggest lessons that I have learned is the importance of Living Without Regrets as we get older we often find ourselves wishing we had tried something taken the leap explor that opportunity instead of living with unanswered whates we decided to evaluate our options after weighing the pros and cons we made the choice to step out of the comfort zone and mve to India it wasn't easy but it was worth it because we didn't want to look back years later and wonder what could have been so now let me dive into the the reasons that went into our decision
3:34 Process first empty nester one of the biggest factor for us was thinking about our future as an empty nester fast forward 20 years when our kids grow up and are in college or outside the home how does the life look like abroad I felt it would be lonely and hallow even though you have great friends great neighbors it still the lifestyle makes everyone busy with their own lives on contrary in India we see a different possibility a more Dynamic life surrounded by family and Community that's why we wanted to move while the kids are still young it allows them to adjust and it's a decision that's fair for them too the second nuclear family and extended support living abroad often means being
4:36 Part of a nuclear family it's you spouse and your kids it's wonderful in many ways you get a chance to spend lot of time together evenings weekends however the time with the extended family is limited as we get older and eventually we pass on who is there for kids is it siblings I personally think having a family support is invaluable in India kids get an opportunity to spend more time with cousins distant relatives grandparents and so on you have an opportunity to meet extended family on a regular basis on different occasions these bonds create a support structure and that's hard to to replicate also the time the grandkids enjoy with their
5:37 Grandparents seeing my parents pampering the kids sharing stories and just enjoying the time together is priceless it's something that benefits both the kids and parents and this is something that can be done when the kids are still young that would create memories for a lifetime next one is the development of the kids itself another big reason for our move is the impact on the kids development life abroad is very structured and organized which has its advantages but kids raised in such environment may find it harder to adapt in India later in the life on a flip side kids growing up in India are very adaptable and they can survive in India or anywhere in the world they develop skills like jugat and being more competitive which prepare
6:39 Themselves to thrive anywhere this is something that I personally feel providing that enironment for the kids is invaluable also I personally think kids in India get a more opportunity to spend time outdoor especially playing soccer Cricket basketball with the friends in the community which is much more conducive for them to spend lot of time outdoor and this is the LIF style or the childhood that we want our kids to experience as they grow up next Lifestyle the choice of the lifestyle that we want yes things like traffic and pollution or better abroad but for us having a support system is more important for example if I get sick or my wife gets sick or Worse both of us
7:43 Are sick we still have to get up take care of things get kids ready drop them in the school and so on there isn't a support structure I'm sure there are friends who help you but it's a different Dynamics in India I I personally feel in India I think the support structure is much conducive and helpful in these situations services and help are more accessible in India than in abroad personally I think this frees up a lot of time and you can focus on the important things that are much more valuable to you I think that it's kind of living a luxurious life for the money that you spend and it's a choice between the lifestyle that you want an organized or a dynamic or you know the support the services help all these come into
8:44 Picture and depending on the lifestyle that you want to choose last is the financial flexibility I want to have the financial flexibility so as a part of the move I I want to leave the corporate world and have the option to follow the passion experience the life do what you want and not to do for the sake of money I think this gives a lot more flexibility and experiences in the Life India provides a wide variety of Lifestyles that you can choose where your money can stretch a lot and you can choose the lifestyle that you want based on your preference so as part of the move I have decided to live the corporate world and have the lifestyle where I can follow the passions do different things experience the life so
9:44 In a nutshell these are the reasons why we as a family have decided to move to India to provide an environment that aligns with our priorities as a family and not to have regrets in the life I hope this is helpful and gives some insights into our thought process and the channel as we bring different stories makes you think through these different aspects of priorities and how the life in abroad versus India so that you can also make an informed decision
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